Let me know if you can give examples of how any ideas contained here are pertinent to you in anyway.
I can see that most all of the thoughts involved with interacting with people. It appears that this interaction has very often a negative impact on the individual. The wisdom in most of thee statements appears very good. Now, how did all this apply to me? In hindsight I see I avoided the negative stuff by avoiding people. I lived in a world I made and did not allow discord to enter. Most people I had to interact with, a boss, landlord, car mechanic, those that did not have my best interest in their heart I treated as mad dogs to be kept undisturbed, to be unnoticed in their eyes. My work was such that I could do it nearly unnoticed. As I look at the news now, watch all the craziness in the world I seem to have made the correct decision. Life events that were beyond my control were managed very well, in my profession the worrk might last for 3-4 years and the job ended. Each time this was an opportunity to improve my position and I was very good at that. Avoiding people that might cause me a problem worked well. I did my best to help others in need as best as my circumstances allowed. I never got caught up in religion (I do believe) and politics was so irrational it had no appeal. I was an amateur radio operator so and duck pin bowler so I had social groups that I was part of, but these people were all very good people, probably because it took a certain personality to be successful in these activities. I was fully aware of my limits, I looked to others for help as needed and understood the help I was offered. Most people I worked with lived in their own universe with all the social burdens seemed to welcome so I had little in common with anyone. No one I ever encountered seemed to have any imagination, they were more than happy to accept their world as it was, not a single thought to what might be possible. I have learned not to judge people as they do not usually have any clue as to who they are or what they do. I do not avoid people but when I start a conversation (usually on three subjects at one time) they quickly decide I am too odd and retreat to their world. I wonder if there are collections of random thoughts that apply to me? My cat knows how to push my buttons.
You are correct that most of my observations were related to interacting with people. As someone somewhat socially awkward for many years I have taken it upon myself to gain skills in order to be less awkward in social settings; whilst remaining still off-centre, personality speaking in most people’s eyes, yet I gained confidence that what I hav to say maybe of interest to the person I am speaking with.
The key problem is that these days most social functions are merely small-talk or conversations of little consequence. I find it hard to hide my boredom in such situations. If I do find someone interesting it is not hard to be interested in what they have to say. My passion is music so I will always seek out the musician or music buff at gatherings. I generally make a bee-line towards people into developing their lives through any passion or purpose driven ideas.
That said, it is key for me that they are able to articulate it in a way that their ideas are coherent and that the person can maintain my interest over a certain length of time. Being a good listener helps but listening does have it’s limits if something is not expressed well.
It is a flaw I am known to maybe suffer from as I expect people to keep up whereas I may not be precise in my speaking as my mind would have me believe. But at least it it something that with time I can work on.
Now, I am not a music reader or player, the closest to real music I have gotten is manning a camera on stage when doing a recording of the Bridgeport Symphony.
Music is very important to my creative activities and I can talk endlessly about that. So, if you wish to talk just use the message feature here. I will talk your ear off and do so on a dozen different subjects simultaneously.