I was just another one of those shy readers who kept absorbing thoughts, ideas, experiences and opinions of others on ideapod and it is an amazing platform. I hope you enjoy redesigning the front page, I’ll let you know if I have ideas (if you want).
I’ll check out @boonnhem’s website a little bit after this. Sounds like something I would like to dig into.
As for why it prompted me to introduce myself - well, I am interested in people’s stories. That’s why I read a lot from sites like ideapod, tinybuddha, medium, wordpress, etc. I think everyone’s lives are different, whether you’re the Cyndi Lauper of the music world, or the Justin Brown of Ideapod. Everyone has a story and the telling of how one had to deal with one’s family member who was a part of Khmer Rouge was eye-opening. It kind of split your world open because on one hand, you’re trying to be a good person, yet, you have someone who was a ‘bad person’.
It triggers so many thoughts - how would I react if I were in that special position. What would I do? How would I think?
For instance, I’ve had a family member robbed and murdered in her home a couple of years back. The man was convicted and sentenced to 10 years of jail. As a part of the victim’s family, it is NOT enough. He can spend his lifetime in jail and yet, it is not enough. But when I look at his family background and members, there’s a side of me who wants to argue with that anger.
More recently, a friend of mine was mowed down during a marathon. She was left in a coma for approx a month before passing away. During that one month when she was in a coma, all her friends, ESPECIALLY her husband, were in pain. The driver was drunk, he showed no remorse, he attempted to run away, denied the charges, and possibly tried to bribe his way out of jail time.
My friend and her husband are extremely kind people, especially my friend who passed on because of the incident. They would defend just about anyone out of the kindness of their hearts. And yet, after the incident, I found her husband struggling between trying to deal with her passing, fate, destiny, and the need for closure…or more accurately, REVENGE.
This despite knowing that revenge is not the answer. The more we seek revenge, the more damage we do to ourselves, the more tragic the carnage.
It’s only a couple of days ago that the man was sentenced to 4 years of jail. In his tearful statement to the press, he acknowledges the fact that the man’s jail time will not bring his wife back. Still…4 years is not harsh enough a sentence. I agree.
So, in cases like these, you find your spirit wrestling with itself - being the good person - forgive and forget; and the bad person - you’ll suffer hell in jail and for the rest of your life.
That’s why I was moved by @boonnhem’s story. It made me think, are evil people born evil or is it a result of circumstance?