Purpose Driven Life

(Mel Saint) #1

I’m 32 next month and even up to now, I still haven’t really figured out what I want in my life. I finished Accountancy in College but really didn’t like it. I worked in so many companies, from tech to finance. I am now looking to study again, and this time, Civil Engineering. There’s actually a lot of things that I want to study: Philosophy, Culinary, Agriculture, Computer Science. I’m also thinking of doing an MBA or Master’s in Tech Management. I’m also thinking of studying in MIT and Harvard for Development Economics. There’s actually a lot! I really didn’t want to study again initially, but I got so bored in life. Maybe my meaningless life will have a purpose once I do study again and learn something new. I’m torn between doing a Tim Sykes of just concentrating on Trading and Charity or studying again. I’m also torn between setting up my own corporation vs sticking to trading alone. All of these purposes are equally valid that’s why it’s hard to know which path is the best for me right now. I also want to settle down and get married and have kids BUT there’s a part of me that still wants to enjoy because I haven’t
enjoyed life yet. All my 20’s were devoted to working nonstop. And in this Feminist era, it’s really hard to find a woman who is still worthy of my love. I don’t know but there’s a lot of confusion in my brain right now. Hope someone can shed a light!

(Bill Ames) #2

Find something to learn, to master, that will allow you to express your creative ability. That is the reason the universe, you, and me, exist, is to create. Try not to be a consumer of time, be one who makes time have value.

(Justin Brown) #3

I’m 37 years old and feel like I can identify with a lot of what you’re saying. When I was about your age, I made the decision to fully commit to Ideapod. However, I didn’t focus enough on mastering my skills.

Now, I believe that having expertise is incredibly important. It helps to create autonomy, which is essential for creative expression that is connected to our deeper nature. My own skills are in the area of digital media, having built an audience for Ideapod. I’m now trying to master some skills around online education delivery. It’s all connected to a connection with a deeper purpose and my own creativity.

(Bill Ames) #4

You say, " I’m now trying to master some skills around online education delivery." Can I suggest you expand the demographics of your pupils? You might find a lesson you deliver will be appreciated by a much wider audience that you have in front of you. There can be people that are smarter or less educated than their biological age. I learn from every encounter but if I just frequented forums for retired senior citizens I would probably be less than satisfied. When I have to talk about something I find I am much more comfortable talking about things that have meaning to me. I may say the same thing a dozen different ways as it is my goal to share my passion. When I had to talk about things that were just work-related, I had to talk about a company product that I knew was not very good, I had to carefully prepare my delivery. I did not enjoy doing it. My advice is talk about “I did this and it helped me do that” rather than “you should do this because it will make you better at that.” Share your success, not someone’s failures.

(Chris Lagos) #5

:movie_camera: Jordan Peterson on the meaning of life for men … - YouTube

I recommend the future authoring program.
You take time to write down your past to clarify it for yourself.

You take the time to write your present to clarify it for yourself

You take time to author your own future .

(Chris Lagos) #6

The paradox of potential. So many choices to allow your potential to manifest. The problem is while you are pure potential, you feel the pre-eminent underlying excitement . However , choosing how to allow manifestation of potential is reductive. That can seem like a problem depending on viewpoint . The alternative is you can remain pure potential but not become anything . Perhaps take some personality analysis tests to aid you in finding a path that will satiate your self .

:movie_camera: Jordan Peterson: 5 Tips For Finding Work You Love … - YouTube

(ACD) #7

I find that an attitude of gratitude goes a long way toward satisfaction. Personally, I am having a ball. I eschew the idea of a purpose-driven life even though I find that setting goals is essential.

(Helen Emmett) #8

When I was 32 I was on the path to settling down and having a family. I thought my purpose was to be a mother. Then it all turned to custard, and I’m now single, 38 and am about to start a new path of studying and changing careers.

I think a purpose can be a value, or an idea - I don’t think it has to necessarily be a set goal. By reading your post, I would describe your purpose as constant growth and learning. You sound like a multipotentialite. I watched a good TED talk on this just yesterday, by Emilie Wapnick, titled “Why Some of us Don’t Have One True Calling”.

“And in this Feminist era, it’s really hard to find a woman who is still worthy of my love.”

I don’t quite understand what you mean by this statement? I do know that dating in general is a lot harder since the Me Too movement. Anecdotally, women are more confident in setting boundaries, and more skeptical, whereas men are finding it harder to make a move, for fear of it being interpreted the wrong way.

(Bill Ames) #9

I see. I just went and watched it:

Justin should watch it, everyone at Ideapod should. Then they will get a better idea who I am. Describes me perfectly. The list of super powers will be useful. Now, discovering this now, at 75, does have some disappointing elements but I will see what I can do to leave my mark on humanity. I think one thing I would like to do is find others like me, there can not be only one of us.

Thank you for sharing this with me and the rest of the Podders.

(Helen Emmett) #10

I found it very enlightening. I’m sure there will be a lot of people who identify with video. It definitely gave me some validation that I’m not a flake :smiley:

And you should not be worried about being 75 @BillAmes, In Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic, she shares a story of Winifred, who at 80 years old began to research ancient Mesopotamia. At the age of 90, Winifred is now an acknowledged expert in the history of Mesopotamia. There is always time to leave your mark on humanity.

(Bill Ames) #11

I will do my best.

(Costas Tzouanakis) #12

Hello my friend @saintmel45 .

While I was reading your post I was able to spot issues that have bothered me a lot . I’m 26 years old , and recently I posted abou the Fresh start project . Which In my opinion is the best reaction for all theese issues.

Most of us haven’t enjoyed life as much as we should’ve . We got stuck between studies and jobs that through the cource of time we found out we didnt like and then we moved arround again.

I also believe that having an expertise is a must . But you cant find what you want to be an expert without exploring the opportunities the world has to offer .

When I was younger i started my carreer as a journalist here in Greece. While I was a promising young journalist with potential to grow , I lost my romantic view about this profession , the reason was corruption of the media. Then I entered another phase in my life , i quit my job and amongst many other jobs and activities I became a volunteer in Occupational Therapy . Now 4 years later I decided to study abroad in order to fulfill that passion of mine . What i want to say is that if I didnt have the courage to quit my job while I was young I would never have found where i want to put my energy on for my expertise. And this effort is much more pleasant than trying to just get by in a profession that does not fit my personality.

(Neil Simpson) #13

Here are some of my thoughts as they appear as I am typing. I have dabbled in different areas in my professional life and when I came to realise that my true calling or purpose was before me was when I saw what others where gaining from what I was doing. As opposed to what I was getting out of my job (salary, perks or standard of living) which always left me with the feeling that was I was doing was done to make ends meet and left me feeling hollow or to be more truthful I probably didn’t give it that much thought at the time.

You may have to become aware of what skill sets you process and how they align with that core part of your personality and how others may benefit from this. When what are doing fits into a larger picture of a functioning society you can look with pride that the decisions you made were for some greater good. Hope this gives you some food-for-thought.

(ACD) #14

Self-actualization is a basic human need.

(Neil Simpson) #15

Maslow’s work should be more widely known. I only came across it this year and it was a real lightbulb moment.