The 9 most important things in life (for fulfilment and happiness)


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So much of our time here on Earth is wasted chasing away temporary happiness.

We spend an entire month’s pay on cellphones we’ll forget next year. We miss important birthdays because of a job that doesn’t pay well enough. We say yes to too many projects and no to personal projects that make us happy and fulfilled.

Too many of us feel unhappy with the choices we make because we realize they aren’t worth it in the end. We drop everything just to get our hands on these new and shiny things, forgetting that real invaluable possessions can’t be bought with money.

If you live in an amazing house with no happy family to live with, can you really tell yourself you live in a home?

Stop wasting your time pursuing things that won’t reward you with long-term happiness.

Money can buy happiness but that happiness fades away as easily as the cash you spend.

These 4 things are beyond money and can only achieved through mindful living.

The best part?

They’re free of charge and reward you ten times over:

Healthy Relationships

Successful people thrive in the presence of successful people. Don’t let gritty businessmen tell you that the road to success can be achieved by stepping on people. There are many ways to achieve great things and using people at their own expense is not the best way to get there.

For starters, no matter how nonchalant you might seem, this is eventually going to weigh down on your spirit. There’s just something about being cruel and relentless that wears down the human soul.

Instead of treating life as a race, use social opportunities to create genuine relationships with people. Go for relationships that stimulate your brain and challenge you to become a better version of yourself. We’ve been trained to think that the only way up is by bringing other people down. It’s about time to change that and start developing real connections with the people around you. Everyone has their own story – you’d be surprised how similar you are with other people.


While it’s true that family can be a major source of stress for a lot of people, it can also be a major source of strength.

Some families have love/hate relationships and if you are like most families, you probably have some element of this in your life.

But that’s no reason to shut those people out of your life. In fact, that’s all the more reason to rally around them and celebrate who you are together, which is stronger together than apart. Family is one of the most important things you can focus on to help enrich your life and your love. Keep in mind, the family doesn’t have to be defined as someone who is a blood relative to you. You do actually get to choose who you call family, despite popular belief.

Your friends

With your family in check, it’s time to turn your attention to another important part of your life that requires a lot of consideration: your friends.

Whether you have one life-long friend or you have ten party friends who you share every weekend with, surrounding yourself with people who mean a lot to you is important.

Friends are more than just companions in our lives, they are confidants, cheerleaders, shoulders to cry on, and they provide couches to sleep on.

If you have even one good friend, consider yourself lucky. If you’ve not found someone you can call a friend yet, keep looking. It’s worth the wait.

Love in all shapes and sizes

Fill your life with a love that comes in all shapes and sizes. You don’t have to be romantically tied to anyone and you never need to fall in love.

You can find love from a variety of sources and be your own source of love. Love yourself before you go out into the world looking for someone else to love you.

Be comfortable loving yourself before you ask someone else to love you. What so many people do is put a lot of pressure on another person to provide them with the love they need.

It’s not necessary.

You can fulfill that role for yourself and enjoy the company of others and love them for who they are, not what they can give you.


Life is made more special by our passions, our desires, our dreams, and our hopes. Without passion, we feel fruitless and unfulfilled.

Passion looks different for everyone. The wonderful thing about pursuing your passion, whether it’s your life’s work or your volunteer time on the weekend, you get to experience all aspects of being alive.

When your soul comes alive, you come alive. Passion helps our souls come alive. Don’t skimp on finding things that make you happy and bring you joy on the inside.

It’s not frivolous or silly: it’s the stuff good lives are made from.

Time and Productivity

We have 24 hours a day to do the things we want. But sometimes we feel that this isn’t enough time to develop our character and become who we are. In reality, it’s not that time just moves too fast. Too often, we spend time on things that make us go slow.

We tend to prioritize things that cost too much energy and have little pay-offs. Most thought experts agree that multitasking only bears low productivity and even fewer results. The key to life, then, isn’t to do more but to do what you can with the time you have.

When you see time as a finite resource, you stop taking it for granted and begin spending every second wisely.

Good Health

When we’re enjoying the peak of our careers, it’s easy to forget that we’re humans too. We forget to eat, sleep, work out, and have fun. We forget that we’re more than just money-making machines churning dollar after dollar.

Too many great people fall into sickness because they didn’t bother taking care of themselves. When you spend all of your life working and chasing after successes, chances are you’re forgetting to nurture your body. Investing energy in proper health care ensures that you will be here long enough to watch your successes go in full bloom.

But good health isn’t just measured by longevity. The quality of life you live can also be considered good health. The less time you spend being sick and depressed gives you more time to enjoy what you have, without necessarily extending your lifetime. The key is to find enjoyment in the things you do, one minute at a time.


Without a healthy body to carry you through this life, it will be difficult to surround yourself with the things you need.

If you focus on creating a healthful lifestyle for yourself, you’ll find more passion for your hobbies, more love for the people in your life, more friends to accept you for who you are, and more family to feel connected to. Wellness doesn’t mean being thin or even pretty: it means being mindful of how you treat yourself and your body.

When you care for your body the way you would care for another human being, you send signals into the universe that you are worthy and that worthiness attracts good things into your life.

Reason to Live

Your reasons to live are your goals but not all of your goals can be considered your reason to live. Your purpose is a larger-than-life phenomenon you have that drives your actions and your principles. It’s the reason why you get out of bed every day and why you keep bouncing back up regardless of the setbacks you face.

A person’s purpose takes on many forms. You may want to become a best-selling writer. Maybe you want to be a diplomat. Maybe you want to be an academic and change the way people understand education. These things are bigger than the mundanities of day-to-day life. Find what your purpose is and you will have unlimited fuel, sharper focus, and a more passionate outlook on life.

Find balance in all of these areas of your life and you’ll be one of the lucky ones. Work to create balance in all of these areas of your life and you’ll live a life that most only dream about. At the center of the perfect life is you. Don’t ever forget it.

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I like to consider purpose and reason to live as non-sequiter because the fact that we live overrides reason and purpose. If there were a quantifiable purpose, then it would not be life but existence.
I like to think potential is the compelling force. It is always out in front of us, like a golden snitch. Potential, good or bad relatively speaking is manifesting itself through our actions and the chemical payoffs of our thought processes.