Originally published at https://ideapod.com/22-brutal-truths-existence-no-one-wants-admit-will-make-better-person/
When someone finally sits you down and tells you the cold hard truth, it can be difficult to hear.
But if you want to get the most of our life, you need to get to the heart of the matter and cut the crap out of your life so you can focus on what’s actually important.
Here are 22 brutal truths about life no one wants to admit but they’ll make you a much better person when you do.
1) Nobody Cares
Are you in pain? Are you suffering? Have you lost something or someone dear to you?
Guess what? Everything you have ever felt has already been felt by everyone else around you.
It’s time to realize that your pain isn’t special; it’s just part of being alive. No one cares.
2) Don’t Waste Your Talent
We weren’t all born with talent. If there’s anything inside of you that says, “I’m good at doing this,” then you need to make your life about doing this. If you throw it away, you throw away everything.
3) Stay Responsible
Who controls your thoughts, your words, your actions? You do. If you do something bad or hurtful or wrong, it’s your fault. Stay responsible for everything you represent.
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4) Death is Final
Stop worrying about death or worrying about being remembered. Death is death—when you’re gone, you’re gone. Live before you have to go.
5) Embrace Your Emotions
Stop running from your fears, anxieties, and pains. Admit that you are flawed and you feel things you don’t want to feel, and then feel them. The sooner you do, the sooner you can move on.
6) You Can’t Make Everyone Your Friend
Stop trying. Make sure you make the most important person in the world your friend: yourself.
7) Value Comes From Time, Not Money
Don’t let money stand in your way from living your life. You don’t need a wallet full of bills to make the most out of your day. All you need to give yourself and those around you is time.
8) Don’t Actively Search for Happiness
Happiness is everywhere. In every laugh, every smile, every “Hello”. Stop ignoring the happiness vibrating all around you in your search for a “greater” happiness. This is it, right here: enjoy it.
9) Money Won’t Bring You Happiness
If you aren’t happy on the inside, no amount of fortunes could make you happy. Happiness comes from the heart.
10) Everyone Around You Will Someday Die
Don’t make your life about grieving over others and worrying about the day they’ll lay down and die. Death is a part of life; live life while you have it.
11) Money Won’t Go with You to the After Life
You know all those long nights you spent building your fortune, ignoring your health, your loved ones, and your life? When you die, those nights will be for nothing, because that money can’t be used after you die.
12) Don’t Forget Who You Are
Remember the you who lives in the place beyond your anxieties, stresses, and worries. The you who defines who you really are, surrounded by what makes you smile and what makes you passionate. Remember that “you” always.
13) Give Time
Time is the most valuable thing you can give another person. By investing you time in the community around you, you give them so much more than any check ever could.
14) Embrace Gratitude
As tough as your day may be, remember that someone out there will always be living something worse. Find something to be grateful about, whether it’s a friend who loves you, a skill no one else has, or even a great dinner. Always remember to be grateful.
15) Your Time Is Your Real-Life Currency
Think of it this way: we give up 40 hours a week so that we can have cash. Time is the true currency of life, and wasting time is wasting money. Invest your time wisely.
16) Dreaming is for Losers; Start Doing the Work
Anyone can dream, and that’s why so many people do. But how many people actually go out and try to accomplish their dreams? Not even half as many. Stop sitting around waiting for a genie to give you everything you ever wanted, and start working towards it.
17) Stop Reacting Negatively
Accept the inevitability of life’s curve balls, and take them as they come. The worst reaction you can have is acting like everything is on fire when in reality, nothing is. Stay calm.
18) Invest in the Most Important Thing: Yourself
You can only live life from one perspective: yourself. After you are gone, there’s nothing else; your version of life is done. So why not make you the best version of you that you can be? Invest in yourself, physically, mentally, and spiritually.
19) Share Knowledge and Experience
Every insight, lesson, and tip you accumulate in the world is worth nothing if you never give others a chance to learn from you. Let others stand on your shoulders, so they can reach heights you never could.
20) Live Today
Not yesterday, not tomorrow. Today is the only time that matters. Start living in it right now.
21) Perfection is Impossible
Why is perfection impossible? Because everyone has their own unique version of what “perfect” is. So stop trying—just be who you are to the best of your ability.
22) You Are Going to Die
Accept it, stop ignoring it. Death is coming and it won’t wait, no matter how many dreams you’ve left unfulfilled. You better stop waiting, too.
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